I love Valentine’s Day as much as the next woman. And I have to admit that if I had the choice, I would always choose being madly in love with a generous handsome man. He would pamper me with a fragrant bouquet of glorious red roses that he personally removed every thorn from, so I wouldn’t prick my delicate fingers. I would receive a huge heart shaped box of custom-made chocolates (all cream – my favorite) and not have to share. He would rent a massage table and give me an hour-long personal massage with edible scented oils and heated hands.
My true love would fly me to Paris for a delicious dinner at Madame Brasserie Eiffel Tower Restaurant, and we would toast with the most expensive bottle of champagne: “To my love, my sweet…. Only the best will do. Retirement can wait.” He would give me a long lingering kiss, get down on his knees and propose marriage with stars in his eyes. The Valentine’s Day of my dreams…
But let’s be honest. Most of the Valentine’s Day romance I remember involved a bouquet of flowers from Safeway, a box of Whitman’s chocolates and an hilarious card from the dollar store. I’m not saying these things are bad. It’s sweet that he remembered the day, and even took me out to dinner at Pizza Hut for a heart shaped pizza and bread sticks.
If you’re lucky enough to have a mate who loves and remembers you on Valentine’s Day, Bravo! But if you’re alone on the day for lovers, don’t despair. Love is still in the air! Make this day special and fun with a little self-pampering and romance for one.
Romance for One.
Make your pet your Valentine!
Will you be spending this special day with your best furry friend? Buy him some heart shaped doggie biscuits and watch his eyes light up as he chomps them down. Make her a spa appointment and dress her up with a pretty red bow and a fancy red sweater. Take pictures and post them. Sounds like fun to me.
Buy yourself chocolate!
Nothing says love like a box of chocolates, and you can splurge on a big heart shaped box to eat yourself or share with your friends. Remember to hit the stores the day after Valentine’s Day for the half priced candy, novelties and flowers. You’ll be glad you did. (Get there early. You’re not the only one who knows this trick.)
Order some flowers.
Have them delivered and enclose a card that says: “From your secret admirer.” Splurge on some long-stemmed red roses to brighten your special day. The sweet aroma of beautiful flowers will fill your home with love vibrations. And remember: It doesn’t have to be Valentine’s Day for you to buy yourself flowers. I have a friend who decorates her home with fresh flowers every week.
Self-love Spa Day.
You don’t need someone else to give you a spa day. You can create your own spa day at home. Light up the candles, turn on some relaxing tunes, and take a hot bath with loads of scented bubbles. Top it off with a good book and a glass of vino for extra happiness. Or you can pick up the phone and make an appointment. A mani/pedi, or facial will make you feel the joy of the holiday. Heck, why not do both? You deserve to indulge in some self-care and pampering on your special day.
Meditate, reflect and do some intense journaling. Write a list of why you love yourself. Reflect on your life, your goals, your dreams and your achievements. It’s not too much to write yourself a poem or love letter in red ink surrounded by hearts and flowers.
Who needs a man when you have amazing friends? Host a Galentine’s Day get-together with your closest pals. Whether it’s a cozy night in with movies and popcorn or a fun night out on the town, surround yourself with the people who bring you joy and laughter.
ignore the hype.
Remember that Valentine’s Day is just another day, regardless of all the hoopla. In reality, it’s all about selling cards, flowers and candy, and makes a lot of money for the merchants (like Christmas, Halloween and even Easter. Yes, they all have historical origins but who really thinks about that?). If you start to feel sad because you’re not in a relationship, don’t. Not everyone is happy in the relationship they have, and they might envy you your freedom.
So, there you have it. Some tips on how to enjoy Valentine’s Day on your own. Remember, you don’t need a partner to be happy, fulfilled, and loved. You have yourself, and that’s more than enough. Treat yourself to a nice meal, watch a movie, read a book, or do whatever makes you feel good. You can also reach out to your friends and family and let them know how much you appreciate them. Valentine’s Day is not just about romantic love, but all kinds of love. And the most important one is the love you have for yourself. So, go ahead and celebrate yourself this Valentine’s Day. You deserve it!